When you say, “It’s personal,” you may be hoping to end the conversation, but sometimes it’s an opening to go deeper. In philanthropy, it can be an invitation to innovate and recast the way we see what is private and what is public, or simply express a loving sentiment. Think of the many inspirational stories of philanthropy that help define who a person is, or how a family is perceived, maybe over many generations. Personal stories can be private, but they also play a role in building, and when needed, rebuilding the public realm. Perhaps they are even more necessary to connect us to a common purpose than we realize.
Too often we regard stories as “mere anecdotes.” Anyone can spin stories and interpretations, but “serious” authorities tell us that data, systems, strategies, and procedures are what “serious” philanthropy is all about. The policies that regulate philanthropy help reinforce impersonal processes involved in assuring technical compliance. The state often uses the law to declare that philanthropy is defined negatively — legitimate donations cannot have a private benefit. Maybe the state is jealous about who gets to advance the public good, but occasionally it does cheerlead for philanthropy.
Most definitions of philanthropy connect private actions and the public good. When we have public actions for the public good, we have the state and when we have private actions for the private good, we have commerce. Of course, there are many gray areas, but philanthropy is peculiar in that it locates itself squarely in the gray area between the private and the public. And the stories we tell about philanthropy, whether they use the word or not, play an important role in designing how we conceive and connect the private and public realms.